It sucks to date

Being 50ish means to a lot of Baby Boomers my age they have to step back into the dating arena if they want to get laid or have any chance of a later-age romance.  The pull to be part of a relationship again is far too strong for some and is dormant in others. But as we age, we start thinking of what out later years will be like, especially if we are alone.

We want to have companionship but the road to finding a suitable significant other is fraught with a lot of those frogs we have to kiss until we find our prince. Online dating is the new ‘bar scene.’

While l exchange a (tame) photo with my potential online suitors, I save the personal information for someone who may be more than one-time date.  I don’t swap phone numbers, text, and tweet or engage in much small-talk or long discussions for that matter.  Until I meet the person will I decide how much I want to divulge about me, personally.

So, getting to that first date is a somewhat simple matter.  We arrange a meeting in a public place. I first ask to see their ID/drivers’ license to ensure he is who he said he was; and the date is off and running.

For me, I usually know within the first 15 minutes on whether the date is suitable for me.  If we met for coffee or a drink, I can get out after that first or second cup without much damage done if the suitor is not my cup of tea, pun intended.

However, if we click, we can continue to dinner or a club to watch live local music. (There is nothing like live local music! Better to attend with someone, too.)

I had such a date last night. While the date was very nice, handsome and employed (always a bonus), he seemed better suited for a girlfriend of mine. She happened to be performing in a club in town. With him in tow, we saw her show, and they exchanged numbers. 

I am turning into a serial dater but until I do find that someone for me, it does suck to be dating. In my smallish-town, the men my age look much older than I do; and the younger ones are usually too young for me. If he doesn’t know who Red Skelton is, he is too young for me. It is curious how fast that comedian can change a romance.